His Father Still:  a parenting memoir

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Parenting Your Teen Through the Dangers of Driving


His Father Still: A Parenting Memoir

His Father Still:  A Parenting Memoir is, first, Reid’s father’s disarmingly candid account of the tumult of parenting Reid through his teen years, and then confronting the unthinkable obligations of a father to a son after a sudden tragedy.

Not So Fast: Parenting Your Teen Through the Dangers of Driving

Backed by research and aimed at empowering parents, Not So Fast: Parenting Your Teen Through the Dangers of Driving, is an informative and vital guide to help parents understand the causes of teen crashes and head them off each time before their teens get behind the wheel.

From Reid's Dad

This blog helps parents find the right balance between exposing teens to life’s risks while protecting them from life’s dangers, with a particular focus on safe teen driving.  If this is your challenge, this blog is for you.

No Tan Rápido

Most driving literature for parents focuses on how to teach a teen to drive, without explaining why teen driving is so dangerous in the first place or giving parents a plan to preempt the hazards teens face. By contrast, No Tan Rápido empowers and guides parents to understand the causes and situations that most often lead to teen crashes and to take specific, proactive steps—before and each time a teen driver gets behind the wheel—to counteract them.

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Think His Father Still is too sad to read or recommend? Here is a review that comments on this question:

I think many people I told about this book when I was reading it were skeptical that it would be too depressing to read. It absolutely wasn't. Reid's death is tragic beyond words, and admittedly his story brought tears to my eyes more than once. But this is ultimately an insightful and inspiring story about the choices we make as parents, persevering in the face of loss, and how we can keep alive the memory of those we love.

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Kind of amazing how a review of my own freakin' book can bring ME to tears: www.amazon.com/gp/aw/review/0786756314/RKEMZVEKJWG1S/ref=cm_cr_dp_aw_rvw_1?ie=UTF8&cursor=1 ...

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Friends: I am pleased to share part of an email about His Father Still that I received from a father:

As I finished the book I had many different feelings, but the overriding feeling was of hope and uplifting peace. I loved the final pages that included Smaller Mercies and the letter to Buddybear. I read over and over the words describing your new life with Reid - it is hard for me to imagine a vision of a more loving relationship between father and son.

You have written a book that brings light into a difficult darkness and to say that it may serve as a lifeline of understanding, inspiration and hope to other parents today and in the future is an enormous understatement.

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Here is a new From Reid's Dad blog post about Connecticut's two hour required safety class for parents of teen drivers: www.fromreidsdad.org/connecticuts-new-safe-teen-driving-curriculum-for-its-required-parent-class/ ...

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Yesterday and today I had a chance to become reacquainted with my Wesleyan (1978) classmate, the Rev. Ken Samuel, of Victory Church in Stone Mountain, Georgia. Ken came to Hartford to be the guest preacher this morning at my church, Asylum Hill Congregational.

The backstory to my reunion with Ken is that he was part of a story I've been telling for the thirty-seven years since we graduated: When I applied to college, one of my applications was to Oberlin, in Ohio. I was wait-listed. Four years later, when we were seniors at Wesleyan, Ken (who was a leader among the African-American community on campus, and we knew then, destined for greatness) and I were asked to be the two students on the Search Committee for Wesleyan's new Dead of Admissions.

One of the finalists for the job was the Dean of Admissions at Oberlin -- the guy who had wait-listed me four years earlier. Ken and I took him to lunch in Middletown, where I greeted him by saying, "You may not remember me, but I remember you!" (He graciously admitted that he probably had made a mistake.)

I have told that story as an illustration of the need to be nice to people, because you never know when and where you may see them again.

Anyway, Ken gave a powerful sermon this morning, about how Christians need to "fight the good fight" against inequality, exclusion, divisiveness, and injustice. He talked about faith, but also about public education, health care, voting rights, and LGBT rights. My favorite line was, "If they [your opponents or enemies] plan your funeral, just keep on living."

After the service, Ken led a forum where he explained the saga of his own church in Stone Mountain, and how he has stuck with his beliefs about what is right, and how pastors can be agents of social change and progress.

Ken inspired everyone who listened to him this morning. It was an honor to be briefly reunited with my friend from so long ago.

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